22 April 2018

Choose Your Thoughts like You Choose Your Words

Now that you have examined how choosing your thoughts makes an impact on your growth and potential, you can also take a look at another area in your life. Firstly, however, take a moment to realize that there are two components of whether or not you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.

Growing up, you may have been told that you are not as good as someone else in a certain academic subject, sport, or talent. This has been your belief for all of your life. After all, you were told this over and over again. You heard people in your environment from parents to teachers that you were not as good as someone else in a certain area. 

On the other hand, you may have been told that you were perfect in a certain subject or area and never really taught to question those parameters. You may think that the bar was set, you reached the goals and that your job is done. This is part of growing up with a fixed mindset.

Secondly are the stories you create as you grow up; you may have judged yourself as someone who is not as good as simply because a statement was made on one occasion. You held onto that belief with no prompting from someone else, yet you continued to carry it into adulthood. Either way, there is no need for blame in either of these situations. As an adult, you are free to re-create your life as you see fit.

Choosing Your Words for Your Self

When a friend comes to you feeling unaccomplished or less than, you more than likely are an encourager – someone who takes their feelings into consideration and lifts them up. Why not do that for yourself as well. Change your thoughts, change your mind and watch how you talk to yourself as well.

When it comes to yourself, do you beat yourself up, criticize yourself and not give yourself the same break you would give your own friend? Choose kinder words of communicating for yourself and be aware of too much negative self-talk. 

A growth mindset allows you to tell yourself that you did not do as well as you had hoped and also speaks to you that you can and will do better, achieve more. All this without the negative self-talk that comes along with it.

Choosing Your Worlds for Others

In the same manner you would want to speak to yourself with kindness and encouragement in order to foster your potential and development, take that opportunity to foster and encourage the development of another.

Instead of making excuses for them, hold them accountable, encourage them to see where they can do better and offer them the possibility of achieving more and doing greater things with their life and with their minds.

When you choose your words carefully, whether to yourself or to others, you make a difference which can then result in making a change. 

21 April 2018

Bask In Your Imperfections And Live Freely

What’s wrong with being yourself? Nothing is wrong with it as long as you conform to what everyone else wants from you. This is not being yourself but a hollow version of someone else’s vision of you. Break free and learn to accept yourself as you are.

Acceptance is not Surrender

Have you read “Moby Dick”? Captain Ahab was so unhappy with himself that he pursued the white whale to kill it in hopes of killing everything that he hated about himself. That might be too deep of an interpretation but it leads to a valid point. When we accept who we are, it is believed that we are settling for less than we should. We have given up. That couldn’t be farther from the truth.

When you stop running and pursuing unattainable goals, you are forced to look at yourself. As long as you are in motion you can pretend that you are someone you are not. All of your energy is spent making people in your life believe a lie. It is thoroughly exhausting and leads to more dissatisfaction with you because you feel like a failure.

New life begins when you stop pursing and begin looking within for what you seek. Discover why you have been created. What does it mean to be “you”? Only time spent in reflection can answer that question.

4 Tips for accepting yourself as you are

You can’t become someone else. They are already living that life. Choose the road that leads to who you were meant to be. 

Being human is not easy – We are creatures who have made mistakes in the past on the way to discovery and will continue to do so. Mistakes keep us honest in our opinion of ourselves. No one can do it all or is expected to. When you go easy on yourself you can also have compassion for others.

Turn weakness into strength – What others may view as flaws can actually be what makes you so unique. Instead of trying to pretend you are put together when you are anything but, embrace your spontaneity and creative side. Any weakness can be turned into strength when you accept it as a part of you through love.

Choose a course – You may need to make a detour at some point or another but it takes courage to even take the first step of a life journey. You won’t go anywhere if you continue to hide who you are because others may not accept your flaws. The truth is that your celebration of your flaws makes them feel insecure.

Laugh at yourself – The quickest way to diffuse embarrassment is to laugh at your mistake. It takes too much energy to be mad or ashamed. You are not the first to make that faux pas and you won’t be the last. Accept it.

Imperfections make you human and happy. Accept yours and then shine.

20 April 2018

Are You “That” Friend? Learn To Accept Imperfection In Others

Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on from time to time. When things go wrong, who will listen to you? Often it’s not who will listen but who is worthy of the privilege to witness your vulnerability. No one is perfect, but not everyone can handle seeing imperfection in others. Could you possibly be the type of friend who has a problem with that?

Are you willing to listen?

There are all types of people in the world and you may know many of them. When it comes to sharing your imperfection with others, it is wise to show discernment. Sharing with the wrong person can be detrimental for you as well as them. It is hard to be vulnerable. Choosing unwisely can make you shy about sharing again. It can also lead to a broken relationship.

The truth is that everyone is not ready to handle all situations. A person who has not yet embraced their imperfect side won’t rise to the occasion to celebrate yours. We have all been that friend who has been less than tolerant. Recognize when you are acting in this way. Let your friend know that maybe you aren’t the one to confide in at this time. Then, grow beyond where you are and learn to be more tolerant.

6 Types of Friends that could be you

Don’t fret. You can change.

Gasping friend – They feel that you aren’t sorry enough for your faux pas. It is their duty to act mortified on your behalf. If this is you, then all sympathy for your friend, the sharer, has gone out the window because of your shock.

Sympathetic friend – In reality you are feeling sorry for the sharer. You pat them on the back and shake your head. In reality you are saying that you are glad that you aren’t in that position. It is quite a patronizing position that the vulnerable sharer doesn’t need right now.

Worshiping friend – This is the friend who thought that you could do no wrong. The sun and the moon rise and fall on you. When you profess vulnerability by sharing a mistake, they can feel nothing but let down. The sharer feels bad that they burdened you.

Uncomfortable friend – This friend doesn’t like to admit that they could be vulnerable too. In an effort not to face their own faults, they don’t know how to deal with listening to yours. They need someone to blame. If this is you, the blame will likely be placed on the sharer or someone else so that you feel better.

Rosy friend – You wear those rosy glasses and pretend that the situation was not as bad as the sharer is making it out to be. If this is you, the goal is to make the sharer feel better no matter what.

Competitive friend – You don’t want to listen to your friend. If this is you, their tale of woe is an opportunity for you to show that you can share a better story of vulnerability than they can. You won’t be outdone.

Being imperfect requires friends who are willing to go the extra mile with you. Is that you?

19 April 2018

6 Ways To Keep The Critic Inside You At Bay

Have you heard the adage, “Everyone is a critic?" It’s true. And, the biggest critic of all is staring right back at you through the mirror. No one has to come down hard on you because you are already putting yourself into a vicious head lock as it is. Keep reading to find out six ways that you can send that cynical noisemaker packing.

They say that you can talk to yourself as long as you don’t answer back. If you don’t answer back, however, the potentially negative thoughts will continue unchallenged. This is more detrimental than being thought of as crazy. We often follow the patterns created in our minds by our thoughts. Allowing negative self-talk to dominate your mind can lead to low self-esteem, bad habits, depression and other unhealthy results.

6 Ways to Get over on Yourself

Don’t let the pressure get to you. Be proactive. Attack those thoughts as soon as they start to speak. Get creative.

Box up your negativity – This can be literal or figurative. In the grand scheme of our life, each problem holds a small place overall. Seeing it as small minimizes its power over you. Try this. Create a small box or purchase one. Whenever you are plagued by a negative thought about yourself for the way you handled a problem or because you made a mistake, write it down on a piece of paper. Put it away in that small box. See your issue diminishing in size. Those thoughts do not define who you are.

Replace negativity with positive self-talk – When a negative thought is removed something needs to fill its place in your mind. Exchange a negative (“I am worthless because I am not married.”) for a positive thought (“I am a unique and worthwhile person that any man would be lucky to have for a wife.”). If the negative thoughts can keep you down, then surely the positive ones can lift you up.

Talk to a trusted friend – Explain the situation that made you feel so bad. Allow your friend to console you, counsel you and challenge that negative thought pattern that is condemning you.

Get realistic – Was the situation as bad as you imagined it was? Maybe you are embellishing the story because of the negatives swirling in your mind? Take a realistic look at you and put things into perspective.

Accept your imperfections – Don’t “agree to disagree” with certain attributes but embrace them as old friends. They are a part of you – the good, the bad, the ugly and the peculiar. Love who you are and then move on to making changes in your life.

Count your positives – It’s similar to counting your blessings. What is good about you? What have you done that is positive? Before you know it, you don’t feel bad anymore.

Don’t let that voice in your head overshadow your actual voice. Speak the truth and change your circumstances.

18 April 2018

5 Ways To Find Freedom In Imperfection

Imperfection is not the opposite of perfection, as if it is a state not to be desired. Instead, imperfection is the state of acceptance of self through love. Without seeing who you truly are, you won’t know what to change and what to keep. Perfectionism just throws everything out the window. Here are five ways to truly be free by letting yourself live as you are.

“I am Me”

“Accept me as I am” is a battle cry. It doesn’t mean that you won’t change detrimental habits because you are embracing who you are. It also doesn’t mean that you are promoting laziness or lack of ambition. What it does mean is that you have taken a look inside of yourself and seen who the person inside truly is. There are things that you like about yourself and also things that you don’t, but it all works together to become the person that you are today.

True change in your life is an act of love. You can lose weight when you love who you are right now at your current weight. It means that your life, self-esteem and happiness are not tied to a number. Anything done out of self-hate doesn’t usually last because you are always criticizing your efforts. Nothing is ever good enough because you start off not liking anything about yourself from the beginning. You’d leave your own body if you could.

There is nothing healthy about that. Imperfection says that the only way through is with love on board. Accepting and embracing you by celebrating why you are unique. It is getting reacquainted with yourself through a few steps that show the value that was there all along.

5 Ways to Imperfect Freedom

Take some serious time for introspection – Don’t be afraid to look at yourself honestly. Write down what is positive and what is negative in your eyes. Find ways to change the wording of those negatives so they are now positives that you can embrace. If you think that your ankles are big, find shoes to wear that minimize their appearance as such.

Discover what you like to do and don’t like to do – Don’t be afraid to say “no” to events or activities that don’t foster your interests just because it’s a “cool” or “acceptable” thing to do.

Try something new – Try bold colors for clothing or change your hairstyle. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting with new looks to accentuate your positives and give yourself a confidence boost.

Laugh more – Laughter promotes feel-good endorphin release. Take time out to have fun and take a rest. It is restorative and also promotes health.

Explore your creative side –Are you a “right-brained” person? Find out if you have any creative tendencies. Stimulate that side of your brain to bring out attributes you didn’t know you had.

Allow yourself to be human, flawed and free by embracing your imperfect life.

14 March 2018



1 ½ lb. ground beef
1 jar pizza sauce
2 tubes refrigerator biscuits
1 ½ cups shredded mozzarella cheese
1 cup shredded cheddar cheese


Brown the beef in a skillet and drain. 

Mix pizza sauce hamburger and simmer until heated through. 

Quarter the biscuits and place in a 13-in x 9-in x 2-in greased baking dish. Top with beef mixture. 

Bake uncovered at 400 degrees F for 20 minutes. 

Sprinkle with cheeses and bake 5-10 more minutes.

13 March 2018

Breakfast Casserole


1 package of sausage

2 cups of shredded cheddar cheese

9 eggs, beaten

2 cans of refrigerated crescent rolls


Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. 

Crumble and brown the entire package of sausage and pour off any fat. 

Coat a 9” x 13” baking dish with a non-stick spray and line it with one package of the crescent rolls. 

Put the cooked sausage on top of the rolls and top with the cheese. 

Pour in the eggs and top with the second package of crescent rolls. 

Bake 35 minutes or until the top is golden brown.  

Serve warm with a buttery maple syrup. 

12 March 2018

Applesauce/Banana Bread

4 ripe bananas
1 cup of sugar
¾ cup of applesauce
2 eggs
2 cups of bread flour
½ teaspoon of salt
1 teaspoon of vanilla 

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees and grease a 9” x 5” loaf pan. 
In a large bowl, slice the bananas and use an electric mixer to mash. 
Add the sugar and blend. Let mixture stand for 15 minutes. 
Add applesauce and eggs and mix well. 
Blend in the remaining ingredients. 
Pour into the greased loaf pan and bake for 55 minutes. 
Remove from the oven and let stand again for 10 to 15 minutes. 
Transfer to a wire rack to cool completely.


11 March 2018

Day 30: Your favorite song at this time last year...

I can't believe we have already reached the end!! It doesn't even feel like it's been 30 days.
This time last year I was binge watching the Canadian show Instant Star and fell in LOVE with the lead characters. 

Alexz Johnson--Skin & 2am

10 March 2018

Day 29: A song from your childhood

I don't remember a lot of songs from under 10 that I personally listened to without my grandmother playing it first. But I know I was all about NKOTB, Milli Vanilli and Expose when I was younger.

Expose--I'll Never Get over You (Getting over Me)

09 March 2018

Day 28: A song that makes you feel guilty..

This one confused me at first, but then I figured it really has 2 meanings, one I feel guilty listening to it, or 2 it reminds me of something I feel guilty about.. And of course, I always go with #2!

Julie Roberts--Break Down Here

This song reminds me of an ex, we had some great times...but the bad outweighed the good and I just couldn't stay..

08 March 2018

Day 27: A song that you wish you could play..

I wish I could play most songs, but the one I really want to learn to play is..

Led-Zeppelin-- Stairway to Heaven

07 March 2018

Day 26: A song that you can play on an instrument..

Seeing as there is literally only 1 song I have EVER been able to play on any kind of instrument, as much as I would love to learn to play...

06 March 2018

Day 25: A song that makes you laugh...

There are a few, but this one gets me every single time

Joey & Rory-- Cheater Cheater

05 March 2018

Day 24: A song that you want to play at your funeral

I have actually put a lot of thought to this since I had my heart attack last year at 34. I've got an entire playlist that I add and remove songs from. But the one that I have on there that must be played is..

Joey & Rory--When I'm Gone

04 March 2018

Day 23: A song that you want to play at your Wedding..

I've been married since 2012 and I didn't really have a big wedding; just us the kids and our moms; but we are planning a vowel renewal for our 7th anniversary in 2019. One of the many songs on the playlist is this one:

Russell Dickerson--Yours

03 March 2018

Day 22: A song that you listen to when you're sad...

I like to play songs that I know will make me cry when I am sad. I've always been the type to enjoy a good cry...

Cailtin & Will-- Address in the Stars

02 March 2018

Day 21: A song that you listen to when you're happy..

I had such a hard time narrowing this one down, but right now this is the one I put on first..

Brett Eldredge--Cycles

01 March 2018

Day 20: A song that you listen to when you are angry..

Gnash Ft. Olivia O'Brien
Fair warning, this is the explicit version

28 February 2018

Day 19: A song from your favorite album

My favorite album right now is Kane Brown Deluxe Edition..
I have fallen in love with 98% of his music! 
One of my top favorites from the album is:


27 February 2018

Day 18: A song that you wish you heard on the radio

I think most if the songs I listen to daily are played on the radio... But I know I haven't heard this one on there yet..

Reba McEntire & Jennifer Nettles-- Enough
I know it's not the video, but I can NOT find it anywhere!!

26 February 2018

Day 17: A song that you often hear on the radio..

Well since I mostly listen to country when in the car or at work..

Dustin Lynch--Small Town Boy  

25 February 2018

Day 16: A song that you used to love but now hate...

Not too sure on this one, I still listen to a lot of the songs I used to love. I think the only one that comes to mind is...

New Kids On the Block-- Step by Step

24 February 2018

Day 15: A song that describes you

Wow!! This is gonna be a tough one for me, I've got songs for other people, but never really thought about a song that describes myself...

Rachel Platten--Fight Song

23 February 2018

Day 14: A song that no one would expect you to love

This one is so easy

R. Kelly--Bump n' Grind

22 February 2018

Day 13: A song that is a guilty pleasure

This one is hard to put out there...

Justin Bieber--Sorry

21 February 2018

Day 12: A song from a band you hate...

I honestly don't really "hate" any band, if I don't like them I just don't listen....but for the sake of getting all 30 days completed...

Why Don't We-- These Girls

20 February 2018

Day 11: A song from your favorite band..

The only problem with being a music lover is picking a favorite anything, be it song, artist or band.. 

Matchbox Twenty--Rest Stop

19 February 2018

Day 10: A song that makes you fall asleep

I used to have a playlist strictly for sleep, but it got to the point that the "soothing" sound would keep me awake; so now I just push play on spotify and let my music play.

Here is one song that used to be on my sleep list

18 February 2018

Day 9: A song you can dance to..

I don't really dance, but when the kids and I just want to let loose we always play a mix of music, here's one that is on our playlist now..

Jesse McCartney--Just so you know

17 February 2018

Day 8: A song that you know all the words to...

I know all the words to almost all the songs I listen to, so I guess I'll just pick one from random..

Keith Sweat--Twisted

16 February 2018

Day 7: And song that reminds you of an event..

This really goes along with Day 6. It was a concert with KC & JOJO and Shaggy

Shaggy-- It Wasn't Me

15 February 2018

Day 6: A Song that reminds you of somewhere..

This one is a tough one for me. I don't really associate songs with places, more people. But the first time I heard this song was at Ybor City in Florida, so I kinda always think about that night and the concert when i hear it.

KC & JoJo--Crazy

14 February 2018

Day 5: A Song that reminds you of someone..

We all know that Dolly reminds me of my grandmother, so I wanted to use this prompt for someone else.

Jennifer Nettles--His Hands
I believe the song speaks for itself...

13 February 2018

Day 4: A song that makes me sad....

There a few songs that I could list, and it would be a big tear fest on my end. Even though the song I picked is kind of an upbeat one in a way, my grandmother introduced me to the song and every time I hear it I think of her and how much I miss her.

Dolly Parton-- Hard Candy Christmas

12 February 2018

Day 3: A Song that makes you happy

Bitch by Meredith Brooks
I know it's an old one, but whenever I am in a funk I blast this song and I always end up in a better mood!!

11 February 2018

Day 2: Your Least Favorite Song

Literally I will listen to just about anything, and with 3 teenagers in the house I always have to hear everything. One of my least favorite songs; and I have disliked it from the first time I heard it is...

Happy by Pharell Williams

Sorry, no video for this one as I really can't stand it at all :(

10 February 2018

Day 1: Your Favorite Song....

I have a ton of favorite songs, but the one most listened to on my playlist is...

That Girl by Jennifer Nettles

09 February 2018

Day 31: 101 Dalmatians

08 February 2018

Day 30: Winnie the Pooh

This was my favorite book, and movie growing up! 

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